Sunday, October 21, 2012

The Beginning of Better Days

Hi Sisters,

Thanks to all who came to our meeting this month where we finished our discussion of Daughters in My Kingdom. It has been a life-changing experience for me to learn as I studied individually and then to further learn as I listened to your comments each month. You are all wonderful women who bless my life tremendously. Thank you!

On Thursday, November 15th at 7:00 pm we will be having scripture study group at Susan's home. We will be discussing our individual favorite parts of general conference. Bring some of your impressions to share. It certainly was an amazing and historic conference!

We will NOT meet in December, but for those who weren't there, we talked about discussing in January, The Beginning of Better Days: Divine Instruction to Women from the prophet Joseph Smith, a book recently published by Deseret Book. It includes the minutes of the early Relief Society as well as two essays by Sheri Dew and Virginia Pearce. You might want to add this book to your Christmas list (currently $17 at Deseret Book and $16 at Seagull Book):

http://deseretbook.com/Beginning-Better-Days-Divine-Instruction-Women-Prophet-Joseph-Smith-Sheri-L-Dew/i/5078230
http://www.seagullbook.com/mm5/merchant.mvc?Screen=SEARCH&q=the+Beginning+of+Better+Days&search.x=39&search.y=13

OR you can read the entire minute book on the Joseph Smith Papers website:

http://josephsmithpapers.org/paperDetails/nauvoo-relief-society-minute-book?dm=image-and-text&zm=zoom-inner&tm=expanded&p=1&s=&sm=none

                                                Carry on in your good works! Love, Michele

Saturday, July 21, 2012

Blessings of the Priesthood for All

Thank you to Judy for hosting our scripture group Relief Society meeting this month! It sounds like it was a wonderful discussion on Chapter 8 from Daughters in My Kingdom. Here's what Judy had to report:


Thanks Judy for being a lovely hostess!

Fortunately, we had an amazing Sacrament Meeting last Sunday that set the stage for our discussion. The new Elder's Quorum Presidency spoke (minus President Booth, who was out of town) on the Priesthood and each gave a masterful talk to which we often referred.  Some of the points we discussed were:  even though the Priesthood is the "power and authority of God by which He blesses, redeems, and exalts His children..."  men may be given the authority but they must be worthy and prepared to be able to properly use the power;  the Priesthood is a service and cannot be used on oneself;  men and women are equally blessed by the Priesthood authority on earth.  We each pointed out the parts of the chapter 8, Blessings of the Priesthood for All, which had particularly resonated with us and expressed our feelings concerning them.  We were particularly touched by Adrienne's comments about how she feels peace when she just sees our Priesthood on the stand at church and how she doesn't worry or feel sad  as a single woman because she has absolute faith that it will all work out and be made right for her.
Kim Bethers added a great deal to our night and we were so glad she joined us for the first time.  Jolene and Michaun brought delicious fruit and dip for us to enjoy throughout the evening.  We were reminded that Relief Society was organized under the Priesthood  and that there is power there which we can use to strenghen ourselves and our homes and to which we each BELONG. As Sister Barbara Smith said, "With continuing priesthood counsel and with Relief Society leaders who are called of the Lord by inspiration, the women of the Church have a divine source of direction for the work that is theirs to do and the Society provides a means to accomplish that work."
Susan, MeriAnn, Diane, Sharon, and Irene each shared thoughtful insights.   Kerri told about her father's reactivation and her mother's conversion and summed things up beautifully when it was finally time for us to part.  Since we hadn't taken time to discuss individual spiritual gifts, Kerri followed Michele's example of giving us a challenge of searching and praying to discover the spiritual gifts with which we may have been blessed.
What a blessing this group is to us in our lives!  Let's do it again on August 23rd at 7:00 p.m.!

Sunday, July 1, 2012

Our May Meeting: The Heavens are Open to Women


We began our May meeting with a quote from Sister Ardeth Kapp's new book, Doing What We Came Here to Do. (It's a fabulous book, go and buy it NOW if you have not read it!) Sister Kapp admonishes us that "the heavens are open to women." I felt like our discussion proved that the heavens are open to us as we seek answers to our problems through prayer and especially reading the scriptures and our new Relief Society book Daughters in My Kingdom.
 Renae is seen above with her arm around her former young woman, Breeane. (So nice to have you with us Breeane!) Renae reminded us in our discussion about the importance of going through each talk in General Conference and applying them to our lives. Her favorite was Elder Scott's message.
 Did we really stay and eat and visit for FOUR hours? It is true. . . but it was wonderful to get caught up and continue our discussion informally. There is never enough time to share lives and experiences but Cynthia and Kimberly make a good effort to do just that.
 We were reminded to "never sit by an empty chair" in Relief Society meetings. Not a problem here for Sharon, Merianne and DiAnn.
 It has been so nice to have Sister Lise Forsbery from Norway visit our group a couple of times with Judy, who so graciously hosted Lise while she was here visiting in Utah. Lise serves valiantly in MANY church callings in her home ward in Oslo. She reminded us to be grateful for so many people that help to share the load of work in the Church. She is a lovely person and we wish her well in her life back home. It is a great feeling to know we are surrounded and sustained by a worldwide sisterhood.
Janette shared Moroni 7:26 and 33, Alma 8 and the special experience she had in striving to overcome a problem "bigger than me." She testified of the fact that the Lord is listening and will give us power to do "whatsoever is expedient in me." Janette is shown here with sister/friends Keri and Kristi.

General Conference Highlights

Sister Julene narrates a wonderful compilation of highlights from our last April General Conference on the Mormon Channel. Here is the link if you are interested in listening:
http://mormonchannel.org/relief-society/visiting-teaching-message/18

It is so wonderful to have Julene join our group and give us insight through her experiences with the General Relief Society as a missionary.

Wouldn't it be great to have our OWN individual highlights from General Conference? It seems like it would be easily done by 1) listening carefully to conference and 2) by taking notes of what impresses you and 3) then cutting and pasting specific passages into a document after they are publised online. What a great way to be reminded of the inspiration YOU recieved through the prophets. Let me know if anyone tries this!

June Meeting

Thanks to everyone who was able to attend our June scripture study gathering. I thought it was wonderful to discuss insights from Chapter 7 of Daughters in My Kingdom regarding "Pure Religion: Watchcare and Ministering through Visiting Teaching." I learned a lot about what it means to be a good visiting teacher from listening to your comments. Thanks to Susan, Janette, and DiAnn for providing our delicious luncheon. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE our group and look so forward to being uplifted and taught by your comments.

Sunday, June 3, 2012

Raspberry Bars Recipe

Sisters,

Here is a link to the recipe for the raspberry bars. I modified the recipe because life was crazy on Thursday and I couldn't run to the store.  The original recipe is even more delicious. I think that is why I was a little disappointed in how they turned out, because I know what they are really supposed to taste like. So if you thought mine were good, you should try the real recipe, which tastes sweeter. Here is the link.

However if you like more of a tart taste, here is what I did:

I made the crust according to the recipe. Instead of the raspberry pie filling, I mixed 5-6 cups frozen raspberries (thawed), 2 T cornstarch, and 2/3 C sugar. For the frosting, I used butter in place of the shortening and sour cream in place of the marshmallow cream and a little more confectioners' sugar. I also used a larger baking pan, I think mine is 13" x 17".


Thursday, March 8, 2012

Moving Forward



Jackie gave a nice closure to chapter 4 by reminding us that we need to take what we have and keep going. We can take Eliza Snow's words to heart:

“Don’t you see that our sphere is increasing? Our sphere of action will continually widen, and no woman in Zion need[s] to mourn because her sphere is too narrow.

“God bless you, my sisters, and encourage you, that you may be filled with light, and realize that you have no interests but in the welfare of Zion. Let your first business be to perform your duties at home. But, inasmuch as you are wise stewards, you will find time for social duties, because these are incumbent upon us as daughters and mothers in Zion. By seeking to perform every duty you will find that your capacity will increase, and you will be astonished at what you can accomplish.”

Sister Snow’s personal expression of faith and optimism can serve as a guide for all Latter-day Saints. “I will go forward,” she said. “I will smile at the rage of the tempest, and ride fearlessly and triumphantly across the boisterous ocean of circumstance … and the ‘testimony of Jesus’ will light up a lamp that will guide my vision through the portals of immortality.”

Our shoulders are strong and capable. We are bright and articulate. And when we feel that our trials are too much to bear, we can appeal to the Lord. He can make our burdens lighter, and " (us) that (we will) bear up (our) with ease, and (we can) submit cheerfully and with patience to all the will of the Lord." Mosiah 24:15

That All May Be Edified

Lisa, our welcome Norwegian visitor, said she was overwhelmed and touched by the comments made in our February study group.  It is interesting that we all can relate to each woman's struggles and questions.    She said it makes her want to go home to Norway and set up a similar group.  (Welcome to our new Norwegian friends!)

Lisa said that while the Church and our culture both help us to want to serve and improve, we have a tendency to be overly critical of ourselves.  We don't need to compare ourselves to others or be degrading to ourselves.  We need to pat ourselves on the back that, despite our challenges, we are still here!

Doctrine and Covenants 84:110 teaches us that "the body hath need of every member, that all may be edified together."  We can admire each other's strengths without thinking that each of us has to be able to do everything.  We should be grateful to have others to help us share our burdens and our responsibilities.

Thanks for coming, Lisa!

"The Mormon Question"

Judy loves to stay up-to-date in news, even though it sometimes makes her anxious.  She said that instead of getting angry about current politics, we need to do as Eliza Snow taught, and 

"continually seek guidance and comfort from the Holy Ghost, (so we) could enjoy peace even in the midst of adversity. (Eliza) said that the Holy Ghost 'satisfies and fills up every longing of the human heart, and fills up every vacuum. When I am filled with that Spirit,' she continued, 'my soul is satisfied, and I can say in good earnest, that the trifling things of the day do not seem to stand in my way at all.'" DIMK, Chapter 4

Judy thought it was interesting that chapter 4 referenced an article in the New York Times titled "The Mormon Question."  This sounds like any number of recent articles in this publication, although the article she references was written February 8, 1870.

Defending the Practice of Plural Marriage


What a hot topic this was! And still is. Daughters in My Kingdom does an excellent job of covering some of women's thoughts in chapter 4 (scroll down to Defending the Practice of Plural Marriage, about 1/3 down the page). Meri Ann shared her struggle with understanding this practice, and how a Deseret News article finally helped her to understand. The article, titled "Recent Events Highlight Confusion of Polygamy," is a well-thought out explanation to a sometimes troubling doctrinal issue.

Valerie Hudson, a scholar and author, talked about polygamy at a conference held in Utah last fall. "In the Lord's eyes," she said, "monogamy is not a sacrifice, but a blessing. But polygamy is a sacrifice. … When God does command polygamy, he understands it is a sacrifice of the joy that would be there for his children if they could live the higher law … the Lord desires all of his children to have the natural joy that comes from living the law of marriage: monogamy."

The practice of plural marriage, or polygamy, was an exception to the rule of monogamy. Meri Ann underscored the fact that an exception, although sometimes required or necessary, does not change or become the rule.

Personal Revelation

Renee shared a comforting quote from the Personal Revelation section of chapter 4:

She (Eliza R. Snow) taught that if they would continually seek guidance and comfort from the Holy Ghost, they could enjoy peace even in the midst of adversity. She said that the Holy Ghost “satisfies and fills up every longing of the human heart, and fills up every vacuum. When I am filled with that Spirit,” she continued, “my soul is satisfied, and I can say in good earnest, that the trifling things of the day do not seem to stand in my way at all. But just let me lose my hold of that spirit and power of the Gospel, and partake of the spirit of the world, in the slightest degree, and trouble comes; there is something wrong. I am tried, and what will comfort me? You cannot impart comfort to me that will satisfy the immortal mind, but that which comes from the Fountain above. And is it not our privilege to so live that we can have this constantly flowing into our souls?”

Renee also quoted Lorenzo Snow as saying:

“This is what we desire to instill into the hearts of the sisters—to be useful in their sphere and not be discouraged because of difficulties in the way, but trust in God and look to Him, and His marvelous blessings, I will promise you, will be poured out upon you.”

Trust God, be useful in your sphere, don't be discouraged.  This advice is just as relevant today as it was then.

Accepting Personal Responsibility


The Temporal Self Reliance section tells us that we need to "Accept personal responsibility for spiritual strength, health, education, employment, finances, food, and other life-sustaining necessities." Tanya related how it was easy to take care of her responsibilities when she was in school and had to complete assignments. It was easy to take care of projects and duties at work when you have a boss giving you deadlines. But now that she is a stay-at-home mother of an adorable toddler, she finds it harder to find the motivation to get things done. She said, "I'm not enough to do these things; I'm weak. I need a push to get up and going. I can see what I ought to be, and how I fall short."

Candy advised that if we can take care of the "have-to" work by a certain time, then we have more time the rest of the day to do "wants." Michele referenced Moses 5:11:

"And Eve, his wife, heard all these things and was glad, saying: Were it not for our transgression we never should have had seed, and never should have known good and evil, and the joy of our redemption, and the eternal life which God giveth unto all the obedient."

Michele pointed out that if it were not for our mortal experience, we would not be able to have children, and we would not be able to experience joy. We are sanctified and can have joy in part because of the difficulties of having children.

So what can we do to feel more complete, more motivated? Do the best things first, and rely on the Lord for help. He knows what our needs are.

Recording Our Histories

We all love to listen to Irene.  At 85, she is the grand matriarch of our group, and is so rich in life experiences and wisdom.  As we read of our Relief Society forebearers, we were reminded that someone has to record the history so that others down the line can share the stories and the heritage.

Irene is compiling her family histories, recording stories of how the Lord's hand has been manifest her life.  She told a story of a nighttime drive through a narrow, snowy canyon.  The car started having troubles, and finally the electrical system went out.  The road was too narrow and snow-bound to be able to pull off the road, and the occasional other car on the road would have to swerve dangerously around them to get past.  The car was getting colder, and they were worried about their brother who was in delicate health.  The girls wrote HELP on the fogged windows and shined a tiny flashlight on the message when a car would approach, hoping to find a good Samaritan, but the cars kept going by.  They all prayed that the Lord would send help their way.  Finally, a truck came by and stopped.  Fortunately, they had a towing chain, and were able to pull the crippled car down to the mouth of the canyon.  The Lord does answer our prayers.

Irene challenged us to ask our family members, "What was the first time you remember feeling inspiration?"  The ensuing discussion will be a memorable one.  We need to write down our inspiring experiences as they happen so we don't forget them.

Self-Reliance

Candy, a talented seamstress, liked what was said about sewing our own clothing:

President Young advised sisters to sew clothes for themselves and their families. He said, “I call upon my sisters to … create your own fashions, and make your clothing to please yourselves independent of outside influences.” Sister Eliza R. Snow reported that he encouraged sisters to establish “fashions that would be becoming—such as would be worthy the patronage of sensible, refined and intelligent women who stand, as we in reality do, at the head of the world.”

Candy emphasized that we don't need to be so simple as to be dowdy, but that we are to be becoming and lovely.  Even if we don't now sew our own clothing, as they did then, we can still chose outfits that are nice and modest, and make us look truly beautiful.

Diane told us how the ladies then grew their own silkworms so they would have nice cloth for making their dresses.  Evidently, they even would carry around the silk cocoons under their skirts and in their corsets to keep them (the cocoons, not the ladies) warm.  There was a time that the cocoons started hatching during Sunday meetings...  Yikes!

Diane shared her worries that we aren't prepared enough for what lies ahead.  How are our sewing skills?  How is our food storage?  How is our spiritual strength?  If we do the things we ought to, and "delight in doing right," Brigham Young taught that we will be "firm and immovable like the bases of those everlasting hills."

See Luke 6:47-49 (and sing The Wise Man song) for the scripture about building your house on the rock in preparation of the storms coming.

Public Speaking

In our February meeting, we discussed Daughters in My Kingdom, chapter 4.  Lisa told us that the part she like was found on page 49:

"Some women felt reluctant and unprepared to speak in public. Sister Snow gave the following counsel to such sisters: 'Do not let your president have to say all. … Has not God endowed you with the gift of speech? … If you are endowed with the Spirit of God, no matter how simple your thoughts may be, they will be edifying to those who hear you.'"

Saturday, March 3, 2012

Bookmarks






I just found two different bookmarks that people have made for the Daughters in My Kingdom book.  You might want to go to one of these sites and print one out for yourself!

The first one is found on the visiting teaching website.  Click here to go there, and then follow the directions they have on that page.  (Click on our picture below to make it bigger enough to read.)




The second one is from the My Happy Tribe blog.  (Again, click on the picture to read it.)


Click here to go to their blog.  They will direct you how to get a pdf file, which has a page of 5 bookmarks to print, cut, and use in your book.  

Happy reading!

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Gifts (and Prizes!)

What a gift it is to be able to meet together!  And now we're giving away prizes, too!  We will be giving away a fabulous surprise prize (no one knows what it will be yet...) to a random entrant.

To enter the prize drawing, LEAVE A COMMENT on one of the posts.  Each post (or article) on this blog has, at the bottom, the words, "Comments Here!"  Click on this link to get to a page where you can see all the comments other people have made.  At the bottom of their comments, click in the white box to add your own thoughts.  It doesn't need to be lengthy or profound to count.

To get another entry, LEAVE MORE COMMENTS.  Each comment will count for an entry.

To get even better chances of winning, WRITE YOUR OWN POST.  Each post will count as double entries.

If you need any help (or if this is all way too confusing), contact Michelle or Janette.

Good luck!

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

"A Wide and Extensive Sphere of Action

I absolutely LOVED this chapter that deals with Relief Society happenings in the late 1800's. Any thoughts you would like to share here (especially if you can't come to our meeting) regarding:
  • retrenchment
  • expanding your power for good in family, Church, and the world
  • the difficulties surrounding plural marriage and the manifesto
  • the ability to articulate beliefs, both then and now
  • becoming sister Scriptorians
  • the need for self-reliance
We would love to get a discussion going on our blog. Be brave and remember what Sister Snow said to the early sisters: ". . . If you are endowed with the Spirit of God, no matter how simple your thoughts may be, they will be edifying to those who hear you."

Thursday, February 2, 2012

Emmeline and Diane

Because I also have a deep regard and appreciation for Emmeline B. Wells, I loved hearing Diane talk about her in our meeting. 

While it is true that Emmeline had many trials to face, I am certain Emmeline would be be equally amazed at the life of our own Diane who is raising a righteous family with nine children. For any who would like to know more about Emmeline B. Wells, here is a short biography of her life:


Emmeline Blanche Woodward Harris Whitney Wells was the fifth general president of the Relief Society. An articulate defender of the Mormon faith in written and spoken word, she served for thirty-seven years as editor of the Women’s Exponent, a semi-monthly periodical for women in the Church. She published her poetry in a compilation entitled Musings and Memories as well as many short stories in the Exponent under the pen name, Blanche Beechwood. As a leader in the suffrage movement, she spoke out against legislation that denied women the right to vote and lobbied extensively as a staunch public supporter of polygamy.

Emmeline Blanche Woodward was born February 29, 1828 in Petersham, Massachusetts. After her father’s death, her mother moved the family to Salem, Massachusetts where Emmeline received an exceptional education for the time. She was baptized a member of the Mormon Church on her fourteenth birthday and thereafter began teaching school. At age fifteen she married James Harvey Harris and left with him to join the church headquartered in Nauvoo, Illinois. Soon after their arrival in 1844, her newborn son, Eugene Henri died and her husband left to find work. For support she began teaching school and later, when her husband didn’t return, she became the plural wife of Newel K. Whitney. The Whitney family arrived in Salt Lake City in the fall of 1848 where her daughters, Isabel and Melvina were born.

When Whitney died in 1850, Emmeline returned to teaching school and two years later married prominent church and civic leader Daniel H. Wells as his seventh plural wife. Together they had three daughters, Emma, Elizabeth Ann, and Louisa. Emmeline and her five daughters resided independently from the Wells’ main family in a small adobe home where she supported herself for most of her remaining years. Wells' public service began at the enlistment of church president Brigham Young in 1876 to direct a grain-saving mission. Through the Women’s Exponent, she asked women in the church to glean leftover wheat from their fields and ditch banks to donate to the Relief Society. The wheat project was extremely successful and helped to relieve suffering across the world and especially during World War I. President Woodrow Wilson expressed his gratitude for her efforts in a personal visit in 1919.

Wells continued her forty-five years of public service in 1879 at a national suffrage convention in Washington, D. C. and was thereafter intensely involved in the State and National Women’s Suffrage Association and the National and International Councils of Women. She relentlessly fought against anti-polygamy legislation such as the Edmunds-Tucker Act in 1887 and wrote strong editorials to represent the Mormon woman’s view to the nation regarding woman’s suffrage. She advocated that women “have stamina enough to stand boldly forth in defence of right. . . . It matters little what name they give us, so long as our motives are pure, and our actions are honorable.” [1] She confidently lobbied at many conventions, congressional hearings, and before three US presidents. In 1899 she was invited to speak at the International Council of Women in London as representative of the United States. Her powerful voice in public debate, as well as her personal friendships with national suffragist leaders promoted understanding and enabled her to serve as a liaison between Mormon and non-Mormons.

In 1910, at the age of eighty-two, Emmeline B. Wells was elected as the General President of the Relief Society after serving twenty-two years as secretary. During her eleven-year presidency she continued to support causes that elevated the status of women and children, raised funds for temples, and taught regarding the noble role of womanhood. In her declining years she focused her attention on the religious work of her Mormon sisters until a month prior to her death on April 25, 1921 at the age of ninety-three. Her large funeral in the Salt Lake Tabernacle witnessed flags flying at half-mast to honor her. On February 29, 1928, to commemorate her birth one hundred years earlier, a marble bust was placed in the rotunda of the State Capitol with the inscription, “A Fine Soul Who Served Us.”

References
Blanche Beechwood, “Our Daughters,” Woman’s Exponent 2. (February 1, 1874): 131.
Carol Cornwall Madsen, An Advocate for Women: The Public Life of Emmeline B. Wells 1870-1920 (Provo: Brigham Young University Press, 2006).
Patricia Lyn Scott and Linda Thatcher, eds, Women in Utah History: Paradigm or Paradox?( Logan: Utah State University Press, 2005).


[1] Beechwood

"Lift Up Your Heart and Rejoice"




One of my favorite moments during our gathering in January was Judy's comment about despite the fact that she often feels insecure (don't we all?) that she loved the scripture "Lift up your heart and rejoice" (D & C 31:3). I especially loved hearing Judy read to us the words of her great-grandmother, Zina D. H. Young who was the third General Relief Society President of the church. It was also so fun to have Judy's daughter Christy with us.

Zina must be so pleased to see Judy and her three beautiful daughters carrying on the legacy and mission of Relief Society.


What do you do to "lift up your heart and rejoice," even during difficulties?

Saturday, January 28, 2012

Great Things Can Happen as Women Gather in Homes




















We began our discussion in January 2012 with Sister Sharon Huffman, who read us an article regarding her granddaughter who was part of a Young Women's group who help to repair the broken headstone in the Salt Lake City Cemetery of Sister Sarah Kimball (1818-1898).Sarah Kimball was instrumental in helping to establish the first Relief Society in Nauvoo in 1842. The women first met in Sarah's home to make shirts for men working on the temple and desired to form a women's association. After Eliza R. Snow wrote the first bylaws, they were presented to the Prophet Joseph Smith. He responded by saying, the bylaws "were the best he had ever seen. . . and were acceptable of the Lord" and also added that he had something better for them. That next Thursday afternoon he met and organized the women after the manner of the priesthood (p. 12 DIMK) According to Sarah Kimball, the prophet also said,"The Church was never perfectly organized until the women were thus organized."

How do you feel when we are gathered with our Relief Society sisters?